"Married But Alone - Are You Going Through An Invisible Divorce?"

Saw this interesting subject in Her World at the newspaperstand and I decided to buy the magz to read about it.

I find this article very meaningful as it reflects the current trend of marriage.

1) Too Busy To Love
This is talking about couples living together and share the bills but lead separate lives, cohabiting more like a passionless housemates than loving life partners.

2) Together for Practically's sake
Couples now prefer a more pragmatic solution when things are falling apart as a divorce can be expensive. By staying together, they not only share the living costs, they also keep the money that could have gone to the lawyers. This also spares the children the trauma of seeing the parents split up. When the relationship is diminished to just mere shared assets and little affection, it is easy for a third party to come into the picture and affect the relationship.

My Thoughts
It is really not easy to keep a marriage alive and loving. Just a slight mistake or carelessness could cause your marriage to fail. Women tend to spend more time with their new-borns and neglect their husbands. When the wives want to spend time with their husbands, it was already too late as their husbands had already found "someone" to share their unhappiness and the "someone" was always by their side. Staying together is just a responsibility.

I HATE this word RESPONSIBILITY. I find it difficult and meaningless as marriage is for years and not a few days only. But it is really really very difficult to make decisions as women tend to be emotional and would always think for their children. They do not want their children to grow up in a broken family. BUT the children will grow up and have their own family, then what would happen to us, women?

"Miss the past, hate the present, fear the future"

Some Updates...

Let's talk about Bryant first.. :)

He is now 91cm tall and weighs about 14.2kg. PD said he is overweight for his age but OK for his height. When I told Calyn and gang, she kept saying "Told you lioa!! Your son is FAT!!" -_-"

He is adapting well in childcare now. Seldom cries now when I sent him there especially when Teacher Alice is around. In fact, recently, he starts to wave bye bye to me and give me a flying kiss. Contradicting feelings again: Happy that he is adjusting well, sad that he no need me lioa. Haiz.. WOMEN!!

Now let's talk about me and Carys.

Went for anenatal checkup last Saturday. Everything is OK and Carys weighs about 1.2kg and I am now 30 weeks + preggy. On Monday night, I fell on the bed on my tummy while trying to save Bryant from falling off the bed. Carys did not move for 30mins and I was very scared. Quickly called gynae and he asked me to get myself admitted to Mt Alvernia. When I reached labour ward, I started to have contractions. Gynae came and checked and found out my contractions have started and was very close but my cervix was not opened tho Carys is very low. He said 30 weeks is too early to give birth so want to suppress my contractions. Gave me med and stay overnight for observations. The med worked and my contractions became longer and by Tue morning, it stopped. Did an ultrascan on Carys and she is OK and weighs about 1.6kg. Gynae decided to let me go home after I promised him that I will take very good care of myself.

Now I am at home resting. Hope everything will be fine and Carys can wait for at least 5 more weeks. :)

Quote of the Day

A real relationship, whether it's with a friend or a lover, is about finding someone who brings out the best in you, enjoys the best in you and loves you for the things that you love.

"The Power of NOW"

The present moment holds the key to liberation.
But you cannot find the present moment as long as YOU ARE the mind.

- by Eckhart Tolle

We cannot change the PAST and we do not know the FUTURE. What we can do is make full use of PRESENT.

My "Achievement"

The mooncakes are COMPLETED!! Hehe! I did it with my mummy's help as I am not allowed to do moulding as elderly believed will affect the unborn.

The white lotus mooncake is the easiest to make. The durian mooncake is the most challenging. As my mummy forgot to put the durian fruit in freezer, it is too soft to mould into a mooncake.

From the pics, those without "face" are durian mooncake while the rest are white lotus.

My colleagues said the durian taste nice, just that the snowskin abit thick. I will improve next year! :)

I am sooooooooo

Excited!!!

Because I just bought the mooncake ingredients during lunchtime and I am going to make my own snowskin mooncakes tonight!! Provided I am not tired after shopping after work. Hehe!

Spent $38.60 on the ingredients and tools. Heard it is very simple to make. Hope it will come out nice. :)

I will be meeting Yanping and Yongsheng for dinner later @ Taka. Will take this chance to "try" the mooncakes and also buy my all-time favourite lao por bing. :)
Yanping also mentioned JL got sales, 1 set cost $9.90.Think I will try to drop by later to get some for Carys and see got any nice ones for Bryant.

White Lotus Mooncake
Ingredients
White Lotus Paste 1kg
Snow Skin Premix 500gm
Cold Water 260ml
Shortening 100gm
Juice Binder 20gm
Cooked Glutinous Rice Flour
Flavouring 2 tbs

Skin Preparation
1. Mix the Snow Skin Premix with Shortening and Juice Binder.
2. Slowly add in Cold Water and Flavouring into the mixture.
3. Leave the mixture for 10-20mins.

Filling Preparation
1. Scatter the Glutinous Rice Powder on the plate.
2. Divide the mixture into 20gm each, White Lotus Paste 30gm each.
3. Flatten the mixture and put the White Lotus Paste into it.
4. Shape into a ball and scatter some Glutinous Rice Powder on it.
5. Put it into the mould and "drop" it out after a while.
6. Put the mooncake into the fridge for about 30mins before eating.

This is a modified recipe. Hope it taste good. :)

中秋节快乐

DHL Family Day 2008

The Family Day was held on 30 August 2008, Saturday, at Siloso Beach. The weather was good. Bryant had a good tan and enjoyed himself tremendously. :)
My luck was quite good too, won 8th prize for the Lucky Draw, $100 Taka vouchers. Hehe!